How on earth can you call an affair pure and good? Do you not believe in being clean with your relationships? I do and I've been in toxic situations. Again the divorce was the best thing for me. I make no judgments on others, I'm not god and others can do what they want. I guess this is how I view the world and what feels right for me. Each person should decide for themselves. If you are in an affair with kids and feel this is the purest situation rather than the toxic marriage your partner is in, go for it. People have different morals and values. I'm just stating my own opinions. Doesn't work for you? Fine, do what you like.